Sophie, You have every right to be scared. You don't know what he's thinking or where the divorce is leading. You don't know what he's got up his sleeve in the way of settlement and to be quite honest w/you, I was scared as heck when this happened to me many years ago. Then, as we moved along for 2 1/2 years, I got really angry about the way my xh was trying to take advantage of me and the situation. I got angry because of the way he was playing the pity party game and the lies he was telling everyone about our life, i.e., rewriting history. Once the anger took over, I wasn't scared any longer because I had to fight to save our assets and ensure that he didn't take me to the cleaners in the process.
Sophie, you are scared because your h isn't acting like the h you once knew. He's off kilter and it's not a comfortable, warm and fuzzy feeling you are getting from him. Protect yourself at all costs. Do not share what you've learned here or the discussions you have with your lawyer. Play this card game very close and keep your knowledge to yourself.
Hang in there. We are here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
