I'm so sorry to hear that! What a tremendous loss.
Last year at my church (while I was working there) we had a funeral for a 16-year-old; it wasn't an accident, he had an undiagnosed aneurysm in his brain. Helping with that funeral was a life-changing event for me. So profoundly sad, but it was truly a wonderful experience of the community coming together to comfort one another and the family. I hope that your daughter experiences something similar; there's no getting past the sorrow, but the rest of it is where we experience God in the midst of tragedy.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012