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Thinking about ya', suga.

Bear hugs to ya'.


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Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08

"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."



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I can't even imagine how you must be feeling, but I do believe if you just focus on getting through each moment it will get easier. Don't take any calls from him for the next few days. let him leave a VM, if it is about your children call him back , otherwise let it go. Just keep thinking in and out, in and out.

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How am I supposed to get through Vegas like this? I don't even want to see him. I asked if he was going to be listed on the birth certificate and he got real pissy and said, "I guess shes going to put my name on it." and so I told him that would make him responsible and his reply was, "Oh well."

He has made his intentions clear, so I will just get through Vegas and move on. Its the only thing I can do to keep my sanity.


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How soon is Las Vegas again? Let him take care of his own accomadations, you don't need to deal with him the whole time.


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Its next week and we already have our "room." I'm just going to get through it the best I can. I don't want to ruin the kids' fun.

I just am having a really hard time dealing with the reality of the choices he is making. I guess somewhere I wanted to believe that he wouldn't do this, but I think that I've known all along.


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(((((Corey)))))
There's not a virtual hug big enough....

I'm sorry.

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(((((((((Corey))))))))))))

Is there any way to tell him that something like "you're obviously going to be busy with a new baby, so we'll be fine in Vegas without you." It will let him know you don't need him there as well and you can have a better time then without him there.

I don't know what else to say. I thought this would hit hard but I wasn't sure and now I can hear it in your posts.

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To say that I'm sorry...it just doesn't seem to be nearly enough.

He "guesses" she's going to put his name on the bc?? Wow. Words escape me.

I honestly cannot even begin to imagine what you must be feeling during all of this. The birth has finally made it all too real, huh? Wow.

((((((((((((((Corey))))))))))))))


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Sugar, just make it through today. Try to focus on today with your kids. That's it. DOn't make any decisions today. Just get through the day.

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So here is the latest dramarama. He had to take his work truck in to get an estimate done on it and during that time she was getting released from the hospital. So when they asked if they were married, she answered no and they whipped out the voluntary declaration of paternity...which he obviously can't sign because he isn't there. So her mom picked her up and she informed H that she has made an appointment for Thursday for them to go and fill out the paperwork. So now he is faced with the dilema of how to tell her that hes not going to sign it. Not my problem though, so we'll see.


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3/14/08 OW preg
11/17/08 born
12/12/08 his
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