ILF, you made perfect sense.

I think that what I was doing, was that even though I was saying that I have no expectations, I WAS having expectations. Too many.

Like today. I've been EXPECTING an email or call or text from her about the test or anything actually. I just have to remember that she is probably very busy at work. I know they are short staffed.

NO EXPECTATIONS!

I am comfortable thinking that I did do my best and went as far as I could, at a very large emotional toll. I can look myself in the mirror and I can look my kids in the eyes.

I believe this.

I was thinking that, when I pick up my girls, of picking up my son, too. Take them home for dinner at my house. The wife is supposed to have a dinner tonight for work and didn't give me any indication of what time she would be done. I was thinking of shooting her an email letting her know this and that she can come pick him up when she is done.

Of course, this may give her a small window of opportunity for a quick meet with OM, but it's the right thing to do for my son.

She's gonna do what she's gonna do anyway, but she may suprise me. And I hate that I have to be the one to contact her for something, first. I'll consider sending it at 4.

I may just send her a text when I pick them up, so that there isn't much time for planning.

I think that might be better.

Last edited by hopeful4her; 11/18/08 08:20 PM.

Me 47, WW 38
SS18, D15, D10

Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08

"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."