FLTC, I didn't find your email that nasty to begin with but, that said, you did fall for a "content hook". Her email was actually quite civil and she was expressing her views on the sitch but when she wrote "I'm assuming as the kids' father their health and well being come first" you went for it! Firstly, she does have a right to try and get the best deal for herself and what she sees as her and the families needs. Her past infidelity etc has nothing to do with what is being discussed here, you need to recognize this. Now, when she writes "I'm assuming...." you could reply "thank you for recognizing my dedication to my children as a father and rest assured I will always put their interests first. I believe that my proposal does in fact do this, I'm sorry you do not agree" Keep it business like and polite, don't threaten "you don't want to go there..." You MUST put aside the crap that you've taken and always remember YOU chose to take the crap! You chose to stay as a good man should have but YOU made that choice. I too, stayed years beyond what anyone else believed was good for me but I made that choice knowing what kind of treatment I could expect. It hurts bad, I agree but WE chose to stay. That's done, this is a whole new ballgame. It's hard to see it that way, I know. So, stay strong, stand your ground but let the past be and negotiate with your children's best interests in mind. She has her view and you have yours, try to work it out and if it can't be then take it to mediation etc but it HAS to be worked out. Hang in there, FLTC! The best is yet to come
