Been feeling fine for past couple days. Just keeping my mind focused on the only expectation I have now - D will happen. Got kids last night from w at local mall & went to friends to watch MNF. W called 7:30 - didn't answer. Game over, driving home & w calls twice in 10 mins, leaves VM. No bluetooth for my cell so I can't answer while I drive, plus D2 & S4 are fighting over a toy.
Walk in to house & phone rings - w calling to tell me that she has to work at 7am & wants me to bring kids to cousin's house so cousin can watch them for her. Ok will do. Then w says she needs to talk to me tomorrow night. Ok. W says it's about her job & the kids. Ok. Bye. W left voicemails on cell phone & both home phones with same story.
This is good. Keep it simple and light. Don't be curt with her just be friendly. You have to co-parent with her and things are much easy for the kids if the parents can be civil to each other. Its fine to let the first call go unanswered but if she is calling often it must be important so I would answer the second one next time.
Originally Posted By: Kakatal
Since it is our kids I am not going to fight with w over this issue - I realize she needs money - but feel it is her responsibility to figure out a solution since she will be the one changing the agreement we have.
Nope its BOTH your responsibilities to find a solution. Here is a golden opportunity for you to show her the new you. She may be the one changing the agreement but they are your kids also and things come up all the time that change the best laid plans. Work with her on this not for her but for your kids.
She probably already has some ideas. Take some time and formulate your own and take the high road on this. If this was about anything other than the kids I would agree with you that she needs to figure it out on her own. Get your PMA up and surpress all other feelings and emotions and you both will find a solution.
