I do not have the $$ to pay for daycare for the kids
Your wife should be paying child support...that should cover some of it. Just because she's a woman doesn't mean she doesn't have a financial obligation to the kids. And just because your a man doesn't mean you don't take child support. It's for the kids and it's her obligation, not running to Alaska for a junior high sweetheart.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer