Thanks, guys. The last email from her did it for me. I have been bullied and kicked to the curb for at least the last three years. I can't take it. I'm SICK of it. I spent a year in hell in Iraq, and what the fu&k else can be done to me? All I wanted to do is keep my family together and follow through on the vows I made 22 years ago, and all she does is abuse me. She has the gonads to talk about my best interest being with the kids?
We had a $210,000 combined income, and my son may not be able to afford hockey next year, much less college.
She's having an affair with her married boss who is AN ATTORNEY and a partner in the firm she manages. That pr**k bought my D16 a Jeep when I was in Iraq, and she had the nads to ask for a copy of my ID for the Veteran discount. D16 refers to him as Mom's Boyfriend AND HE STILL LIVES WITH HIS WIFE AND WEARS A WEDDING RING. Has she really gone nuts?
Sorry DBer's I fired the response below out to her. Her first 2 emails to me are at the bottom. I have the moral and financial high ground so far. F%*k it! Just imagine if I really leave the reservation and email every partner in the firm, the ABA and call his wife.
This will be my last email no matter how she responds. She threatened to serve me at my job yesterday. I work in a high school. Do you know how embarassing that would be?
MY RESPONSE:
Some of the numbers you gave are misleading. The interest on the mortgage is deductible, my rent is not. You will not pay $28,000 in taxes. I'm not sure D16's expenses will be $24,000 a year, but if they mount we can talk. You may have deductions for both of the kids. D18 may have to come home and attend a school in state. As for my savings growing as you mentioned, the vast majority of that savings was accrued while I was in Iraq, knowing that I would need to pay legal bills. Please don't accuse me of not putting the kids' health and best interest first. You don't want to go down that road with me.
FROM STBXW:
I'm not trying to be argumentative about this, just realistic and honest. I have no idea how long D16 will need medical care. The money in the savings will in large part be used to buy you out of the house and based on the way it looks to pay for some very basic expenses not to mention some kind of college for D16. I'm sure your budget is tight as well but it does appear you're still able to add to your savings as you go. The costs I outlined are real and I'm assuming as the kids' father their health and well being come first.
EMAIL 1 FROM STBXW:[/b]
FLTC, > >We are really going to have to rethink the distribution of > income that we talked about yesterday. I don’t see how I can > begin to make it based on the split. If I have $104000 a year > and am expected to cover all medical and education costs here’s what > >it looks like: > > > >Gross income: $104,000 > > > >D18 College: - $25,000 > >Mortgage: - $25,000 > >FedIncomeTax: - $28,000 > >D16's Med Cost: - $24,000 > > > >Net Income: - $2,000 > > > >Obviously this doesn’t allow for food, clothing, heat, D16's > college, S10's braces, car insurance for the girls or anything > else. Please let me know what your thoughts are. > >
