I thank you all for your replies and advice, what I am gonna say is that I am gonna put it on hold for now, I have heard something that has made my mind up, the fact that ex and her were in the local bar and a couple of our old friends went in and they invited our old female friend to go sit and have a drink, ex waited whilst wifey was at the toilet and asked the friend (who coincidentally is the one who keeps in touch with me and shunned him on marrying her, and this is the friend whom wifey approached in the toilet for a fight just before they married, ex hasnt bothered with her and her husband since then, and they were two of our bestest friends) anyhow back to it, whilst wifey was at the loo ex asked my friend if she sees anything or hears anything from me, and he asked how I was, didnt ask about son, but she told him I had sent her a picture of son and what a good looking strapping big lad he is turning into, to that he gave no response, I am maybe wondering if it was god that was letting me know that something is brewing and if he is asking about me and this is the first time since we split, then at least he remembers I did exist in his life. anyhow like I said I wont read too much into this and I wont hold the olive branch just yet
Mandy, you do have some good friends! Your XH sounds like he is peeking out the tunnel, so I think you are wise to wait and see what happens. After all, you don't want to be the cause of their break-up (if that's what is brewing here). Let things run their course. Strange that he didn't comment on you son.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hi folks, well not sure if I have done the right thing or not here, but with regards to the accounts that have been handed over for son, there was one account that had a substantial amount in that is put there by ex's old aunt and it is for son when he reaches 18 years old. I thought I needed to let this aunt know how I appreciate the fact that she has put her trust in me to look after this money for son, so I posted a letter to her last night and thanked her, I also said that what is done is done and is history now, if she ever wanted or needed to contact me that is fine, you see I never knew why this aunt stopped contacting me and son, apart from blood being thicker than water and the fact that we dont know what ex and wifey put in her mind or said against us, the fact that throughout the whole damn thing auntie remained close to son and I and then all of a sudden everything stopped and she jumped into wifey's little camp. we will see I hold no expectations but just wanted to remain polite and let her know I appreciate the fact that she still intends giving son this money. truelove hope you are doing well and have a brilliant weekend
Hi folks, well not sure if I have done the right thing or not here, but with regards to the accounts that have been handed over for son, there was one account that had a substantial amount in that is put there by ex's old aunt and it is for son when he reaches 18 years old. I thought I needed to let this aunt know how I appreciate the fact that she has put her trust in me to look after this money for son, so I posted a letter to her last night and thanked her, I also said that what is done is done and is history now, if she ever wanted or needed to contact me that is fine, you see I never knew why this aunt stopped contacting me and son, apart from blood being thicker than water and the fact that we dont know what ex and wifey put in her mind or said against us, the fact that throughout the whole damn thing auntie remained close to son and I and then all of a sudden everything stopped and she jumped into wifey's little camp. we will see I hold no expectations but just wanted to remain polite and let her know I appreciate the fact that she still intends giving son this money. truelove hope you are doing well and have a brilliant weekend
Mandy, I think that you will find that no matter what someone ha done, the family of the MLCer, almost without exception will support whatever decision they make. My Ex's parents and I were very close, but once she did what she did, they stopped all contact with me and the kids. You just have to move on and forget them.
Mandy, You did the right thing. You showed her that you have taken the high road and yet you are polite, gracious and appreciate what she's done for your son. That says a lot.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You know, that's what I don't get. I understand that blood is thicker than water, but their grandchildren/grandnephews, etc. are their blood. Why cut off ties with them? So unfair to the kids. There are no winners in a divorce, that's for sure.
Mandy, I think you did the right thing. And, it's good that you have no expectations, but it would be lovely if the auntie responded.
Hope your weekend is going well.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Braveheart I hear you my buddy, the thing is I know she will stick by ex, whatever she wants to do is fine, the only reason I sent the letter was purely for the reason snodderley as so kindly pinpointed, to show that I am still polite, gracious and appreciate he giving son this money. I thank you all for your replies Braveheart, BeingMe and Snodderley thank you for being there for me and keeping your eyes on my sitch. I have to say I was extremely worried that aunt may bend and take this money from son and give it to ex and wifey, but when she was in contact she always said it was for son and if ex was blowing away his fathers money like water there was no way he was gonna get hers, she said he had no respect for how hard his mother and father had worked to save the money him and wifey has blown, but I guess I had a thought at the back of my mind that because she is getting old and keeps falling ill the deep deceitful wifey or ex could have swindled her into signing them the money in her will or just withdrawing it without her knowing, I am at peace with the fact that it has gone where it is supposed to go and those two conniving people cannot get there hands on it, for son's and aunties sake
Hi everyone, I am shocked I have just received a phone call from ex's auntie, she is sorry she stopped contacting but she just felt with everything that was going off she was caught in the middle, she apologised and we had a lengthy chat having a laugh about the good old times and what is new in our lives, we decided to keep in touch and also agreed that we dont want to talk about ex and wifey throughout our conversations. so taking the plunge worked on that one. I am happy that she contacted me as I really am grateful that she stuck it out and handed son the money she promised
Good for auntie. I had a feeling that once you contacted her, she'd ring you up. I'm glad that you were able to have a nice chat w/her and now you realize that she was only trying to stay out of the middle of the mess. This is what happens many times when this type of thing happens w/families.
Mandy, I'm glad you posted to her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
