Hey girls - I don't mean to be a bother but I need to post a quick question and then I'll go back and read what's been going on here.
What would be a nice way to ask for a gift? See it's my birthday the day before Thanksgiving, and H has brought it up, saying he doesn't know what to do in this sitch. So I was all sweet and said awwww your going to get me a gift, how sweet. Here's my problem, he goes into this scenario of how someone else asked ever so cleverly for something they wanted by saying "oh my anklet broke and I've been meaning to get a new one but just have not made it to the mall to look for another one. And he responded to her, really, where were you thinking of going? And she said Piercing Pagoda, and then He's like really, were you going to go sometime this week, her response was yeh I was going to try but I just don't have the time" So I play the game and say, "you know I've got this clunky round watch and I've been meaning to go and get one that is a little more femine but still casual. I want something that will match most of my jewelry so either silver or two tone. " You know what he says - that sounded so fake! When I told him what I wanted he got all upset saying that he felt like he was in a boardroom and I was dictating to him.
I am so frustrated and this is something I've always been frustrated with. No matter what it is, if I mimick a conversation like the above or, dress up because he makes a comment about how someone else looks and I do that. I hate doing it because it seems so copy cattish but by telling me it leaves me with no option - I want to do it because he likes it and it sounds cool wish I would of thought of it type of thing, but then if I copy it, its not as original, if I don't copy it, he's not getting what he'd like. I can NEVER WIN!
So what would be some creative ways to ask for this gift I want. The things I've come up with that I want, (I've already listed them to him so he kinda knows) are: -Jane Seymour has a necklace out of 2 hearts we saw the other night while watching the game and I said that was pretty when I saw it - and I brought it up again last night and he said He was kinda thinking of that. -He bought me a tanzanite ring a while ago that I hardly wear because I don't have earrings or a necklace or bracelet to match. -He bought me a ruby and diamond heart necklace, but I still need earrings to match and a bracelet. -And last but not least, I'd love if he'd pick out a nice perfume for me. I've got tons of lotions but I'd like a perfume that he picked.
The only ideas I've come up with to let on those hints (he said I could leave a note), was either to send a note complimenting how great he is picking out jewelry and that if he could get finishing pieces for the items he's gotten. Or a note saying I'd love a new fresh perfume.
or I could send a 12 days of Christmas/Birthday gifts thing to list my ideas for him to choose from.
How do you drop hints for the things you want?
I feel so lowsy posing this question here but I have no where else to go, I don't really have friends.
Any help would be great - or is he being ridiculous about having to have me do things like he says.
Jen Me 32 H 35 Married 8yrs 3/11/2000 - Together 10 yrs No Children
1st Bomb - 7/1999 2nd Bomb - 8/2004 3rd A - 10/2006 4th A & Bomb - 10/12/08
Done sweeping things under the rug, I need to start doing something...But what?