No, there wasn't anything in the e-mail. He went home for the weekend to Xmas shop with his Mum.
It's a really BIG deal for him to offer to sort this out for me, although he's a generally nice person so it doesn't mean anything in itself, apart from making him seem more manly.
Hey lisa, ahh, yes I forgot he was away with his Mum.
I replied. I was going to ask you, if I dont do option a) have it out with him, but do option b) try and see how the land lies with him first (i dont even know if he is still with her, but I assume he is).. then how did you cope with it?
I now know that he is with someone else, and now I am meeting him for a drink under those circumstances, which feels really freaky and wierd and no matter how I handle it, I dont know what to expect. I've never been in that sitch before. Got any advice for me? Actually, maybe I should post on my own thread.. sorry!...
Hi Al- I answered the question on your thread. I hope it made sense, but let me know if not.
So, H and I just had lunch. I was returning some clothes near his work so I called and asked if he fancied coffee. We had a nice time- it was pretty relaxed and comfortable. His eye contact was better than last week, although it changes with the wind. It could be because I'm showing some cleavage today- at one point H was almost gawping. LOL!
He remembered a couple of things from our life and referred to us as 'we' which was nice- he's only done that once in the last year as far as I can remember (or that I've noticed). At one point I had to refer to us as having the same surname and he didn't flinch. As reminders of being married go that's a pretty big one, so I think I'll chalk it up as a baby step.
As I was going to leave he started a whole new conversation about his flat (guess what, his flatmates are annoying him). I replied with a joke about me getting them for him, which he seemed to find amusing. Then he said he'd speak to me later in the week and we said goodbye.
Almost as soon as H and I sat down for lunch, meanwhile, CEO started a bit of e-mail flirting. He didn't know I was with H, but talk about timing.
Wow! But you only last saw him Friday? Gosh Lisa, wth is going on !??? The world has gone mad.
Seems his behaviour/eye contact/cleavage gawping/conversation is much like it was before he went into a period of NC before and around his holiday. Too wierd.
Thanks for your reply! I feel sick with nerves, I dont know how yuo do it. Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I don't know if the world's gone mad (although I did think that Pirates capturing a ship last night was quite amusing!). Don't ascribe too much importance to this particular meeting. It won't change the overall pattern of the R. Think of it as a single yard on the London marathon.....
WOW Lisa! Lunch last Friday and today with H, that's a step in the right direction. Did you read the emails from CEO with H there? If you did, did you blush and giggle?
Your reference to your surname wasn't flinched over? Interesting. Good on him too for taking charge of the situation you needed him to handle. That is manning up all right!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Lovely- it IS like a British Sitcom in our office. It's actually just like The Office, which I think you guys also have over there. I even do a version of a David Brent dance sometimes and we all laugh about it
Mishka- I didn't read the messages in front of H, but maybe I could have. I don't think it'll help if he suspects someone else- so far it hasn't precipitated any reaction from him, apart from an obliquely jealous comment once in June!
Handsome- I should write a paper on it. Not sure what journal it would go to though- Journal of Irreproducable Results maybe?!
Today was pretty busy at work. CEO and I finished a document we've been working on and we managed to get it sent out. He used his nickname for me after a bit of a break (nothing dirty- Chief), and we work quite well together as a team on these things. We also chose the worktop for his kitchen today. He's started seeing someone, which is probably a good thing- usually the women he sees run out of things to say after the first 2-3 weeks and then start pursuing behaviours when he backs off, so we'll see how this one does. My USP is that I don't initiate R talks until at least a year of dating, and am actually interested in plumbing, football and science
No word from H, but a guy who took me out for lunch a few weeks ago mailed to say he's looking forward to drinks tomorrow night. That's quite sweet. CEO said he always knew that that guy liked me (they know each other as acquaintances). I'm also supposed to be meeting a different guy for lunch tomorrow but he didn't confirm today so we'll see if it happens. I probably sound like a bit of a floozy with all that going on!
L. xx
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
