LL - DR and trying to Piece is not a waste of time - even if you do not get your R back. the goal of DR is to work on you and make yourself a better person - That is never a waste of time.
Don't stop trying to DR and to piece - I have on many times given up only to later see a glimmer of hope and keep working on piecing. I do not know if I will get my wife back but I feel that I am a better person for the effort and I also realalize that I have a long way to go.
So keep the faith, keep DBing, your H does notice even if he does not show it for now.
