Did you post more about your session with Jody on your thread? I'm on my Blackberry so didn't really get the chance to look yet. I'd love to hear more.
In terms of joint counseling with Jody, I've done this. Actually they do suggest that each person talks to the coach alone at least once before a joint session. They don't consider this a conflict of image as they say the marriage is the client, not the individual.
I did not like my joint sessions but please keep in mind that we were early in stage 1. As the LBS, my job was to listen to H spew, and did he ever...since you're further along than we were, you might fare better. My H was just unwilling to discuss anything about fixing the R. I don't know exactly what happened in your case, but if your H feels like you never listened to him, this could actually be somewhat beneficial as Jody felt it was for us. It's also nice because you can do a conference call instead of sitting together meaning it might be easier for your H to open up.
Like you I'm not going to ask H about MC just yet, but in my case I do think he'd say yes if I pushed. That's not what I want though. I want him to want it.
I will reread that thread. Thanks Opt!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
