Another wife hit by the bomb #3

[Tawnya]

Good morning everyone..well yesterday was pretty uneventful..

Hub supposedly had his meeting with a lawyer yesterday, at least that's what he said on Saturday..but he didn't mention it to me at all last night when he got home..so I figure one of 3 things happened:

1) He didn't go

2) He didn't like what he heard

3) He didn't want to tell me what they said

I dunno what to think, but I didn't ask (which was a 180 for me for sure LOL..I LIKE to know what's up if at all possible)

Also wanted to mention that I talked to my daughter, 18, about this..she, of course, knew something was up because of hub sleeping downstairs..she is a lot like my hub, less emotional, more cynical in some ways, she said "well to be honest, I'll be gone next year for school, so it doesn't affect me as much as it affects you, obviously"..it was actually funny that both of my kids were concerned about ME while I was concerned about them..LOL..she and I talked more in depth about it than my son and I did..my daughter even had the insight to say, after I told her what my son said about me even dating someday (LOL), she said, "yeah, if you did, it would be a long time but I could see dad dating much sooner, if he's not already"..

So..both of the kids know and they are not tragic about it..tho, of course, I will keep a check on them and make sure they are ok and not just hiding stuff in..but, like I said, hub was never a super duper hands on dad, a good dad, but not a hands on, so him not being around all of the time is not a lot different than his normal working so much time..

Funny tho, my daughter made me really question myself about standing for the marriage..which I found funny that she would be the one..but she thinks that once hub's mind is made up that he sticks with it and is much less emotionally attached than I am..and in some ways she's right and I listened very intently to what she said because she and his personality are alike, she told me how that if we (she and I) spend too much time together we grate on each other like hub and I do..just because our personalities are so different...

HOWEVER, I remember a lot of good times with hub and I, how we depended on each other and laughed and loved each other even thru all of the "crap"..so that is what I will hang on to..

And, I do have to say, talking with my kids has helped me detach a bit more than I was previously..

Tawnya