that's the way i feel too...If she doesn't see emotional seperation from me, she will linger. My kids are feeling the crunch a lot harder these past two weeks. I don't know why. I need to ask another question, do WAW , who have OM, feel jealous if they "think" the LBS has someone or is possibly seeing someone? I had read in a couple of books and on-line that when they feel their "safey net" or "security blanket" is no longer avilable to them, they start to re-assess their decision at a different level. Wnated to know if anyone here has seen this or been through it. I have friends who went throguh it and that is what gt her thinking differently about her situation. I know everyone's sitch is different. I don't have anyone else nor am I seeing anyone, nor am I pursuing seeing anyone.
I am not looking to play up a jealousy type situation, but she has heard things wich are not true about me. I don't know that I should set it stragiht with her or let her just continue to think it, even though it is definitely not true. I know being dark has to do with creating an enigma of which she knows nothing and gets her wondering.
AmyC once again thanks for your words. I totally agree with ignoring it. I have implemented a strategy that has had some positive feedback. Here it is, in times of seperation, both physically and emotionally, there has to be some sign of existence or presence. The reason people have pictures of people, loved ones, deceased relatives, etc. is so they don't forget them. With that in mind, I have implemented a sort of "text reminder". Randomly, mostly Saturday mornings, I text her a simple "Good Morning". I do not expect a reply nor do I get text-itis. I started this a coup of weeks back. No response. didn't expect one. This past Saturday, sent the message at 7:15 AM. At 6:50 PM, I received "sorry. Morning" from her. Her responding came on the heels of this thought that she thinks I am seeing somebody or somebody has interest in me or whatever her thought process is. I am very dark, almost to a fault since her conversation with my youngest D last Friday. Ignoring her birthday will be hard for me, but I also believe, as AmyC indicated, that she will see this as a bad thing. It is. She needs to start realizibng that no us means "NO US" and ntil she takes steps to move towards an "Us" mentallity, then I will be emotionally distant. I am much stronger than I had ever realized. I am going to get into my journal tonight and really catch up. As for my new Text Strategy about throwing some Good Mornings or even a good night out to her, anyone have any thoughts? It is random, once a week, two words. The intent is to do it for a few more weeks and then stop, to see if she notices or if she even starts it back up. The reason I chose Saturday morning is because that's when I sit in my chair drinking coffee, watching the news and thinking, she is missing this serenity. So I sent it. Since I have no other contact, other than reminding her of the car insurance money she owes monthly, there is none. I mean absolutely none! I know I need to be out of sight out of mind for her to start missing me, but throwing this splinter out there on occassion, I think, is beneficial. I do know her, the real her inside of this mess, and know that when she sees that, she smiles and laughs. she is thinking , WTF is he doing. Thats the idea. Again, ay thoughts, anyone?
