Julia-what I am going to do in terms of house sitting is sort of leave it up to him and ask him to ask me for space in a way if he wants it. I am going to let him know that I have the keys and can go there when it suits us. I really, truly think the reason we made progress was not me leaving, but the fact that I sent him the email about him moving out, and then the fact that we have been spending time together and have not had any fights or disagreements of any kind. I agree about the MC thing. I am not going to push for this right now--it is just something that I would like. Yes in terms of the dinner and such where he was more affectionate afterwards, this was after a few hours of me doing my own thing. I agree that I can't hang around him all of the time, and I am really not doing this at all. On weekends I make plans without him, and on weeknights he's gone late 2 nights a week, and there are really only 2-3 nights where we are even around each other much, but even then it's 2-3 hours at most given our commutes. Oh in terms of the boiler, he started that conversation, and I think he likes things like that too. He had done research on what the problems might be, so wanted me to share his findings with the repairman. I am pretty sure H's LL is words of affirmation, so I really do try and do this as much as possible, but it can be hard when I can't gush too much...I could go around and feed the cat in the evenings I suppose. This isn't a bad idea. I agree with the idea that things should go slow. I am just unsure why things need to go slow in different houses. I don't think that they do, but will defer to H on this if he decides to actually let me know what he wants :).
Ali--yeah not sure about which stage we are actually in, but there has been no real negativity in 2 weeks. In bed he rubs my nose pretty much every night, and sitting on the couch he pets the cat over me, if that makes sense, and is sort of touching me. There is still a lot that remains unspoken, but I do feel like we are friends again, even if there is still a lot of pain there...I am trying to increase positivity I guess at this point, and I think very slowly this is happening...
In any case I'll keep everyone posted on how I handle the house sitting. I was thinking of just sending a quick email and making it sound all casual something around how I have the keys now, but I think I'll play today by ear, see how it goes, and then maybe bring it up tomorrow instead.
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
