Thanks for that. Of course things are still a bit strained. We don't kiss or hug or anything, which definitely hurts, but at least he doesn't avoid me in bed the way that he used to.
I've decided to try and not house sit after careful, obsessive reflection. Now I just need to word things in the right way. Last night he asked if I was "visiting my friend's cat soon", and asked some details about the cat. It was kind of weird. I should have taken that opportunity to talk more, as he seemed like he wanted to talk. He didn't ask me any details. I may just say that I am going to feed the cat at lunch, even though I know this deserves a real conversation. I think I'll see if it comes up again tonight...
Fingers crossed that these calm moments continue!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
