Here's a link to an article I found on the Smart Marriages website that I thought made a lot of sense. It has to do with creating "rituals" in your marriages, as opposed to just having "routines". It's rather lengthy, but shares with you some great examples from the lives of everyday common folk, just like us!
Since "piecing" here involves a lot of creating a new marriage, instead of going back to the old one, I thought that everyone might find this useful! Bill Doherty's work usually falls right in line with Michele's, and I think this "tip" can add a lot to your efforts here.