My husband will actually say "You don't want to be married anymore because I won't have sex with you?" when we have a discussion about our relationship. It's maddening, I feel like pulling my hair out when he says that. He knows it and I'm so sick of feeling this way. I know I hurt him, I know it devastated him. With him saying things like that to me, I want to get the hell out of here but I can't, I can't hurt the kids again, at least not while they are still living here. Sex was the best thing about our relationship prior to the affair, sex with the other person wasn't even worth mentioning, honestly. My husband doesn't believe that of course and I don't think he'll ever believe it. I had sex with the other guy FOUR times TOTAL the rest of it was talking on the phone and emails.
