What can you really do if your STBXW disrespects your wishes? Can you set some definitive consequences if she continues.
It is tough at first knowing that someone else is filling in as her step father. I have accepted it now and have trust in the guy. You may find that talking with the guy on the phone to get a feel for who he is can help relieve some of your worries. It is especially tough when you have a daughter.
One of the most difficult things for kids is the thoughts and dreams of reconcilliation. I find that I am just very truthful with the kids and tell them that their mom and I are never getting back together, but that we will still work together to make sure they are taken care of well. Even tonight, S8 was wondering that since now his mom seems regretful that maybe she will come back now - I had to tell him that it will not happen because I made a decision when I started dating that our marriage could not be saved.
I can understand your difficulty now. Part of it is imagining your W in the home you shared, but now with another man. And you probably have thoughts in your head of what D7 is seeing - are they kissing in front of her? Is she hearing intimate talk or even worse is she hearing your STBX talk badly about you with OM? You cant let your imagination get you down.
It is good to let your X know that you think D7 should be shielded a bit longer before being introduced to any new men.
Divorce sucks, but we have to make the best of it.
