S13 and I head for home tomorrow. He was talking tonight about buying things for home, hawaii at xmas, next trips to the condo. So tonight, we had a chat.
I asked him what he thought about what was happening. He wasn't thinking about it because he enjoyed being away from the stress at home.
He thought two houses is what we should do. I then asked him why? He said there would be no more stress. Like when W was away on her vacation or this week. I asked if he thought the only thing that would be diff was that they wouldn't see mom and dad all the time. When he said yes, my fear was confirmed - SPIN.
I mentioned to S13 that I didn't want to scare him, but I thought he was a mature young man so he needed to know the reality.
There was a high probability that: - condo sold (he was choked) - hawaii off (really choked) - sell house we are in - other changes like things we do now (vacations, hockey camps, etc) as it costs a lot more to have 2 houses.
He had NO IDEA.
I also said I was fully supportive of going to a C but it should be their own C (obviously the spin was incredible from W and her own C).
So now the K's and I are chatting which is good. Also great to hear that it was good when W was away.
I felt soooooooo sorry for my son tonight, but so close to him at the same time.
The fun of it all. NOT!
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
