All-riiiiiiight! Excellent!!!!! Excellent!!! Please, both of you, read this before picking a MC: Choosing a Marital Therapist
Please do
be thoughtful when selecting a therapist.
work together in selecting one. both partners should interview him or her.
Interview the therapist about his or her philosophy and approach. If the therapist won't grant you a 45-minute interview (free), then he or she is too busy and you don't want them.
be patient. The important thing is to do the therapy. It is not so important that you start "immediately." If you do not find the right one at first, keep interviewing. Don't settle for someone you are not enthusiastic about.
get a specialist, not a therapy generalist.
find one with a time that works for both of you. If you have a great therapist but you are stressed for every appointment because you have to rush out of work, or for some other reason it is difficult logistically, you won't be in a good state of mind during the therapy session.
ask for references and credentials. You would do the same for a simple babysitter.
Do not:
Pick one out of the yellow pages
try to save money on a therapist. It's not worth it.
ask a single litmus-test question (eg, "Are you solution oriented?"). Interview the person.
Pick a generalist, someone who is a jack (or jill) of all trades in the therapy game.
Trust that all therapists are "equal". You need to find one that really fits you and your situation.
