Just read my post. My spelling is shocking. By them I mean kids and by whole I mean hole.
Yes I agree, that we dont know the cause of H's misery. Cant be my fault, as I am in no contact. He has what he asked for - freedom.
I think H does not know how to come back. He has this stubborn pride and the sad thing is no-one knows of A except me , him and OM. Which is probably enough when I think about it.
I know that he dearly loves his children and he was raised to be a responsible husband and father. BUT I have to not be concerned about that. I cannot help him back. I tried for a couple of years. He needs to come to terms with his choices and I must let him do what is right for him.
I know he does not like this home as 1 of the 2 PA happened here in our guest room. It was minutes and uneventful, in fact dreadful and no grand finale! But I suppose H looks for reasons as to why he may be unhappy and blames everything except what is obvious to me and our families and that is a reunited family.
Like SPM I will wait till he has bought his own place etc etc and see if he does find the peace he needs. I suspect not But who knows.
