Jeff thanks for stopping by. I did go to credit counseling . I am fine with what I am responsible for according to the divorce decree. It is when we add in what H isn't paying that is in joint name or has my name on it that we run into my not being able to do the program. The amount I need to pay would actually go up!!
Spoke with a couple of Lawyers about him being in contempt according to the decree but I would have to pay another retainer and then he would be sued but it wouldn't get me any where, except out of more money.
We had bad luck, made some bad choices and now it is time to pay the piper. I don't like it and it goes against everything I believe but I can't lose my home for this and I think the additional and continued stress is quite simply enough to make me physically ill.
Sorry I am not as strong as you guys make me out to be.
Will be happy to let you in on movie night.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Posting to update amout of time W spent with the kids, she took them to get their hair cut, shopping and out to lunch 5 hours and when she called to make sure I was home so she could drop off the kids, she said that after taking them all over the place, she was ready to pull out her hair out.
I wanted to say something to the effect that I deal with them all the time, but I kept quiet.
Hope everyone is having a nice weekend, I'm just working around the house, think I will build a end table tonight or fold laundry.
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.45
I wanted to say something to the effect that I deal with them all the time, but I kept quiet.
Hope everyone is having a nice weekend, I'm just working around the house, think I will build a end table tonight or fold laundry.
Good for you!!! I did the same thing last night as you, well cleaning and bible study. We are such wild and crazy people aren't we??? Hope you had a great weekend!!! Karen
I have read more of the bible this past year than ever in my life. Here is a great on-line Bible, you can search and it has different versions (i.e. King James, American Standard, Etc.) On-Line Bible A good way to pull up the entire Bible is to do a search and put in a passage that doesn't exist, and it will pull up all chapters.
I purchase a new smaller copy before W moved out and they accidently sent me 2 copies. I offered one to the W and she took it and said thank you, but guess what, when she moved out, she didn't take it with her - go figure
James 1: 2-4 Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.
W called today, she went shopping and bought the kids more winter clothes, in the last 2 months she has bought them so many new clothes, - I had to sit there today on the phone while she told me about each item she bought today and how much she saved. - she still spent 130.00 just today. I was polite and acted interested, but I was happy to get off the phone, she is stopping by early tomorrow so she can show the kids what she bought them.
I did get a lot of work done this weekend, still have a lot to do, I didn't get to my end-table project, I like working with my hands and building stuff keeps my mind occupied. I had more important work to get done, laundry, cleaning the kitchen, etc.
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.45
I wasn't going to post this but it gives you a good idea of how my W thinks
W called me today and said this is going to be a crazy week for her busy taking care of her dads dog, working and dealing with everything she has to do taking care of the kids, etc.
I almost said something but understanding my W's way of thinking of things, she equates buying them stuff with taking care of them, she dropped off the clothes she bought them this morning, she stopped by the school to place an order form for some new sweatshirts and today D9 girl scout meeting she was in charge of buying the drinks, so she had to drop off the drinks. There is nothing else regarding the kids scheduled for this week, no games, no more girl scout meetings, nothing.
Its scarry, W actually believes she is taking care of the kids. In her mind she is, eventhough they are never with her, she did take them for 5 hours on Saturday to get their hair cut, shopping and lunch
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.45
Santa Mom blew through our house this afternoon. She picked up the kids from school because she had the day off. Took them shopping, bought my D a dress, and my son a sweatshirt. Bought both of them toys, dropped them off at the house, and split.
Hey everyone, had to post one more crazy thing - I just don't understand W, I know she bowls on Monday night, she has been for months, well tonight W calls me and tells me she just wanted to make sure I knew where she was at in case anything happened, its loud at the bowling alley, if anything happened and I had to call her she might not hear the phone ring - I told her ok
Why after months of bowling does she feel it necessary to call me and let me know where she is at tonight - wierd Its like she makes up stuff just to call me, like when she called me at work just to let me know that the kids liked something they had from Taco Bell
Hey marriedCrazy I see a lot of me in your post, I see you're using my abbreviation WAM for walk away mom. I also believe my W has some mental problems,
marriedCrazy,reading your post hit home, I couldn't put my finger on it until I read your post. Anxiety, yes thats exactly it when W is at my house or when she calls me. I use to be calm and enjoy being with her or hearing from her, I was happy and we would talk and talk and talk, now its like fingernails on a chalk board whenever she is around me.
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.45
The calls. She is reaching out to you again. Either she is starting to think about what she has lost, or she just wants to call you to have you be nice to her so that she feels good about her decision and less guilty.
I still believe she is going to come back to you at some point.
One of W's friends she is close to left a message on my phone, I believe she still thinks W is living here, apparently W never told her what she did.
Hey wdid, thanks for your input, I believe its #2 she just wants to call you to have you be nice to her so that she feels good about her decision and less guilty.
And your comment I still believe she is going to come back to you at some pointscares me, I have thought of the same thing, who hasn't, it would be the hardest possible outcome, I don't know if I could ever get past the fact that she has been with another man. This reminds me of a poem I saved
IF I COULD TURN BACK TIME
Author: Gallen
If I could just turn back the time To when I heard you say, That I could be your shining prince And all the dragons slay, I'd build a castle on the hill So all the world could see, The lovely princess that I chose, To live and die with me.
If I could just turn back the time And start my life anew, I'd plant some roses near the paths That I have led you through: There'd be no thorns to pierce your heart, No tears to dim your eyes, I'd leave no stones to bruise your feet, there'd be no sad goodbyes.
But Father Time will not turn back The hours that passed away. I can't remove the thorns and rocks From all those past gone days; I cannot live my life again But dragons I would slay, If I could be your shining prince For only one more day.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.45
Hope you had a great weekend!!! 
Karen