I'm so glad to hear your update!! It sounds like you are doing really well!
I get this feeling that you are disappointed by H's actions, or that he is not fulfilling your expectations. but he might try to meet your "criteria" if he knew what they were. I think he wants you... maybe he is just scared? Preoccupied? Overwhelmed? It seems like he really wants to spend time with you but maybe needs you to show him it is "safe" for him to ask for more.
(I mean I can't WAIT to talk to my B, but I procrastinate because I want to be in "ideal emotionally presentable form"... not like before when I could reach out to him no matter waht I was going through.)
Can you be more specific about how you feel the need to "mother" him? What would he be doing, specifically, if he did not need to be mothered? What could he do to show that he had integrity? Very specifically?
I wonder... if the b!tch book method of making him chase you might actually just be making him insecure and confused?
I will support you no matter what you decide. But I do have a soft spot for your H and if he is still pulling your heartstrings I want to see if we can do more of what works!!
Maybe we can go back to "basics" here? What do you want? OR what MIGHT you want? what behaviors have provoked him to give you what you want? (I remember that special concert he took you to... and when he wanted to ML with you and carried you onto the bed and then you wriggled out of it...)
