It's Tx Mom.. 2nd thread.. trying to hold on...

[PositivelyMommy]

Hi {{{Tx}}}

I am sorry Saturday was tough but sounds like you pulled yourself together for Sunday.

Here is my two cents. Yes, do what is comfortable for you. Since you were truly happy on Sunday, which is your aim, right, then let him hang around and see the contented Tx, not only in the wife/mother context but as an attractive woman context as well!! Don't get me wrong but I think H might be continually seeing you as a boring old mom/wife and that's part of the reason why the 25 y.o. look so darn good. This is the dose of what he could be missing if he COMPLETED left you guys. I see your H is still half-undecided so you still got a chance.
So have him around when you are happy.

When you are not up for it and is feeling sad/down then just say you have plans for the day (eventhough you may not) and walk out the door! Go see a movie, gym, see a friend, whatever and take yourself away. Let him deal with the girls. He is also the parent, remember! Don't walk out in a mean way, walk out with a big smile on your face and look like you have something REALLY exciting planned that you can't wait to go to. This will be your 180 and he will wonder what you are up to. This is where you will get his curiosity going and he may or may not want to go on the chase. Make sure you look like a million bucks when you walk out that door, almost as if you are going on a date! Not only will looking good make you feel better about yourself but he will associate you look good and leaving him to deal with the girls and think, 'What did I do? This great looking, happy, confident woman is walking out the door without me. Did I make the right choice?' Now, this won't happen after just once. It will take time but you want him to associate you in a different way.

Our guys have convinced themselves that we are awful to live with and they feel justified in doing what they have done. Our job now is to make them second-guess themselves. Once their hormones for OW have died down, we Still want them to want us. They wanted us before enough to marry us! Don't forget that!

TX, this is what I say to myself everyday. Our H fell in love with us when they were sane, happy beings who were in their right minds. Enough to put a ring on our finger in front of the whole world. Enough to have babies with. But H fell in love with OW when they were out of their minds!

I read somewhere this quote, 'Patience is genius. Be a genius.'