Maybe I should be in piecing part 3?

[Hope4us]

Hope, I have posted to you in the past but felt maybe I was not viewing the glass as half full like you were and wanted to pull back not to damper your spirit. But I do have one question, has your wife ever apologized about the affair?

Apologized? I think she's apologized in the only way's she will allow herself to apologize for things. I've heard "I know what we did was wrong", "I'm somewhat ashamed of what we did", "I know we didn't handle the situation correctly" and some others along those same lines. But has she said "I'm sorry and I made a mistake?" Uh..NO.

But that's not really anything different from our whole marriage. She just doesn't verbalize her apologies. She apologizes in other ways (and I don't mean ML). As I've said before, she had a less than stellar childhood and her mom had two failed marriages so I think it's pretty much in her DNA to not apologize. That would be admitting she did some wrong, and she just doesn't do that.