I was wondering if she would feel pressure with the bed. Though she wants a new bed and stated clearly she wants to sleep in it with you...but she may feel it means I must then have sex with you and isn't ready. I guess you could say...why not put it down it means no longer sleeping on the couch! And it doesn't mean you have to have sex just sleep in/on it!! I just don't understand if she is willing to sleep in it with you why say don't set it up without the frame?? Men always see the couch as punishment I guess!! I hope she is saving up for this vacation!!