In my case my kids would constantly talk to me about what happened (still do) and NEVER to their dad. Even after 6 months in therapy they couldnt talk to my H about it. I guess they didnt want to make him upset since it was clear he left and they felt they would make us as an option less attractive if they brought up the thorny subject... They were just trying to please him by saying nothing... At a point the C asked my H to bring the subject himself and he did and although they did ask him a few things they were never as "dramatic" as they were with me... I know my H was not trying to soothe them, he was trying to avoid the subject... It sucks, anyway you look at it.
