Is this worth saving, or am I only fooling myself?

[Dash]

Hey dash,

As far as SAA Plan A. You need to be in a good mental state to do this. It is not easy and that is why I say GAL 1st. When you feel mentally ready and at a stronger place then you implement it if you choose to. Plan A for men can last about 6 months. You do not go dark until Plan A is finished. Going dark is Plan B. Now Plan B will not work if you have not done a strong Plan A but you can't do that until you are in a stronger mental place.

I thought plan A had to be implemented while the spouse was still living with you. She's moved out and moved on. And she doesn't want to give him up which is what I thought the book said had to happen for plan A. Even though she tells me she has "put it on hold" for now until she has a job, etc, I don't believe her, but that's her story. She also has her ex living close by and they text and phone each other constantly. He sent her about a dozen texts the other day and called at least three times. How can I compete with that? I saw one of the texts where he replied "Awww, I wish I could come over and cuddle and snuggle you right now."

According to her the ex doesn't stand a chance, but it seems to be if he doesn't stand a chance then she is just stringing him along and she doesn't see that as wrong. So either she's lying about him not having a chance or she's even more cruel and sadistic that I thought.

Arrrrggggggghhhhhhhhh!!! It's so freaking frustrating!!!!

I'm not really convinced anything is really going to work at this point. I obviously did not know this woman even though I thought I did. She told me the other night that the person she showed me when we first met was the "real" her. But she said so many other things that contradicted that very notion that I'm still not convinced the person I met was the "real" her. And I'm still to blame for it all.

Why do we think these people are worth all this effort? I wanted out before she left, so why do I care so much now?????