Hi Bbj, I have said it before and someone told you already today. In some cases, the physical distance keeps the "Quantum of Solace" over nil. Every day "friction" and tension makes the situation look hopeless even when it isnt. It's just adds stress to the already confused spouses. Especially in sitches like yours where this has been going on for too long, distance may be a way to break the circle. I know you dread the possibility of him moving out and you dont want to do it, just keep in mind that if he does move out it maybe better for both of you. His feelings for you are there and will not disappear like he would wish them to, even if he finally decides to leave. Stay strong, K
