Maybe I should be in piecing part 3?

[Hope4us]

I do understand where you're coming from. I've thought about a lot of stuff since this chit began (and you guys have heard almost all of it!) and my W is just so funny. She LOVES those romantic things, but refuses to acknowledge most of them. It's like if she acknowledges that I've put in the effort and she likes it, then that messes up her "I don't need anyone" attitude.

Case in point. A few months ago, some of you will remember the discussion we had about whether I should buy her some flowers. Well, I did. When I got home with them she said, "those are pretty". Didn't say thanks, nothing. That was all the acknowledgement I got. And she wouldn't open the card in front of me. But ya know what? A couple days later I looked at the pictures on her phone and she'd taken a couple of pictures of the flowers. WTF? She obviously like them. Why not share that with me?

Same with some cards I've given her over the years. She will not even say anything other than a little giggle if it's a funny card or some disgusted snort if it's a romantic card, but then one day I'm cleaning and find this stash of cards that I've given her.

I know I said this a long time ago, but it's so true. On my cell phone I have W's cell number programmed in under the contact name of ICE. It's In Case of Emergency. I read somewhere that first responders will look at cell phones so they can try to find out who to call if you're out of it. So I put her cell number in under ICE. Now everytime she calls me it says ICE calling......and I just giggle because it's so appropriate.

She's a tough nut. And I know I've said it before, but her "I don't need anyone" attitude was one of the first things that attracted me to her. But now after all these years (and this A), I'd love for her to need me. Maybe she really does and realizes it and that's why she's being so stubborn, because if she admitted it that would wreck her "I am woman hear me roar" persona.