thanks for your views...really. I needed a good kick in the pants about that - you're absolutely right. Nothing will get solved either way if I'm holding onto bad. I need to reach for the good.
Your response was a wake up call - honestly. I read it 3 times. Every other in-law plus my sister have been through divorces, and I see what it does to my nieces and nephews. That is why I'm here. I can't live like it is right now, I know that. But I do know that divorce might not be what is right either. Like I told my H, lately. I've never really felt splitting up was right - deep down in my bones.
BUT - I can't believe that living in constant agony is right either! Thank you for your insights on little changes I can make to make things at least better right now.
