Super close to walking out

[DownNotOut...yet]

You ARE my wife (metaphorically...gotcha again!). BTW, I too would follow my wife around the house. Occassionally, cornering her. Exactly the same thing your describe. The Divorce Busting book describes this. It is very, very common. they simply call it pursuing around here.

You need to order the book and then tell your husband to go to the basement and not come out until he has read the entire thing. You might consider doing the same thing.

I let him control my life up until now.

So what you are really saying is that you are really, really pissed that you chose to be unhappy all this time instead of choosing to do something about it???

Your situation is so totally fixable because unlike many of the other WAWs that loose their minds, walk and trash lives, homes, finances etc...often going so far that they can't turn back, you were/are thoughtful enough to come here and look around before cashing in your chips. May the god of your choice bless you for this.