LOL Pup, I've thought your #2 a number of times recently. Ya know, I distance myself from her and she starts suggesting all kinds of things for us to do together and I get pulled back in, which I don't mind, because I LOVE being with her.
So the real question is, RIGHT NOW, what is the correct play? Is she at a point where she wants me to pursue? She seems to LIKE spending time with me and has responded to acts of kindness. I mean, she's told me "thank you" more times in the last couple weeks than she has I think in all our marriage. If I distance myself at this point, would I be reinforcing my absence from when I was traveling so much right before her A started? Would I be pushing her away when she's obviously shown me through her actions/words that she wants to get closer?
A very, very, VERY tough dilemna, H4U.
Yes, of course that's what she wants. I guess what you have to figure out is, do you continue to give her what she wants, even though she's not giving you what YOU want/need right now?
I guess I'd be in favor of a "1a" approach -- keep doing what you're doing, but I'd define "what you're doing" as having included the occasional very tough stances (exposure, the "FU" e-mail, etc.) even while lovingly showing her your devotion and presence.
