OH, you're probably right, BA, but the answer was mine, not his. I'm just mustering up some righteous indignation FOR him, because I get frustrated by his wife's stubbornness and lack of concern for how he's doing with all of this.
I'd also submit that this , in the form of his "FU" e-mail, is the one thing in the past several months that's WORKED to get his wife off the dime.