Maybe I should be in piecing part 3?

[Hope4us]

Thanks everyone. All make good points.

Break, the problem is, I feel like they're scraps. Granted, those scraps seem to be growing more and more. And sometimes I even get an appetizer out of them! But I appreciate the post. Your insights are very helpful and up lifting. Ya know, there have been many times when I've thought to myself, "I know we had a good marriage and I know she didn't go looking for this affair, so as long as I'm strong enough to give her the time she needs, we'll make it". Question is, will I be strong enough to last until she figures it out?

Pup, Her lack of introspection concerns me also, but ya know, she sleeps on the couch and there have been a number of times the last couple weeks when I've gone to bed that she's looked at me with a pained look on her face and I have no idea if maybe she does that introspection while on the couch, in the dark, by herself. Problem is, she's so frickin stubborn that if she was looking at herself she'd never let me know. And until she's ready to talk (if ever), I'll never really know whether she's taken that look.

Flynn, I know you're right. I need to quit analyzing every little thing. A few months ago I got good at looking at our relationship once a week and comparing it to previous weeks. But after our connection on vacation, I think it got my hopes up and my expectations too high. I became too impatient again. I almost wish we hadn't ML on the trip because it was so passionate, I know she was having "those" feelings for me, but how can they be turned off so quickly after? Of course, with us going to Gatlinburg this weekend, if we "connect" again, I'm not going to turn it down. We've got a fireplace and 2 person jacuzzi tub in our room. How much more of a setting conducive to romance do you need?

But I have noticed a few small things the last few days that are some of the same things I saw shortly before vacation. I won't go into the details because they're pretty insignificant to everyone but me, but they're there and they tell me she's getting more comfortable again. But we'll see.