I have a question. Does this OW know that you exist? Do you think there is any possibility that he has been playing you both? That might explain his phone call to her while he was in the sh!tter. (lol, that's the same thing my H calls the bathroom!)
I mean, it seems kind of strange to me that he would tell her he would stay with you till after the Holidays, it isn't like you have little kids or anything. It would also explain why he could call and check in this her after spending such good time with you.
I think the borrowed car idea is a good one. But be prepared for it to hurt. Knowing about it is one thing, seeing it is quite another. I guess I would only do it if you want to motivate yourself into boundary action. That pain and anger will help see you thu for a while.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
