Tim..actually..you are 2 x 4'ing me at the same time..LOL.so technically you got 4 of em in
I love it two for the price of one. Just change the she's to he's and your all set.
Originally Posted By: Tawnya
You are a good pep talker..
Tawnya
I learned from the best. He has moved on to Surviving but I picked many splinters out of my head over the months from him. He stops by once and a while to see how I'm doing and keep me in line.
I believe that if people would just realize that detachig does not mean to stop caring about other people. And that we alone are responsible for our happiness, thoughts, actions, feelings and emotions that more M would last.
Over the years I gave my W way too much power over me and how I was feeling and what I was doing. I relyed on her to make me happy and to meet all my needs. It wore her down. It took a toll on our M/R and it made me angrier and angrier because I felt it was all her fault and not mine.
So DB has nothing to do with saving your M. You must save yourself first. Find how to make yourself happy and to meet most of your needs. Learn to control that which you can control, yourself, and leave the rest alone. Once you accomplish that, then and only then can you truelly find happiness with another person.
Skip this step, take the easy path and you will only cause yourself more heartache in the future. That is why A and second M don't work. The other person has change but you are still the same unenlightened person you were before and are doomed to fail again.
Your here like K is so I belive you are working on yourself. That is all you can do and in the end no matter what happens you will be alot better off.
Take care, and I hope I did not sound too preachy.
Just change the she's to he's and your all set.
