Worse before Better?

[Sophie]

Well...it's MOnday now...

I didn't ask anything yesterday...I just went with the flow and did my own thing.

H wanted us to go the neighborhood restaurant to eat a little and watch the football game.

We were waiting for d8 to come home from a sleepover. H suggested he take the boys and then d8 and I come when she got home.

As I have been doing for the past 5 months...said, 'sure...no problem.'

When they left H said two different times..'So...you'll meet us there?"

When d8 and I walked in, d8 saw H and the boys at a table and walked ahead to sit down.

Remember my neighbor, MrB? (MrB recommended the lawyer that night in the middle of my street)

MrB was sitting in my route to the table and I know I lit up when I saw him, because MrB knows what I am going through. MrB shook my hand and asked how I was. MrB indicated he know H and the boys were in the next room.

H saw this interchange and that I was happy to see this friend. H asked 'who is that?' The kids and I explained MrB lives the next street over and his daughter is friends with s13.

We've explained this to H a few times over the last 6 months.

Later, in the restaurant, H asked about MrB again! H couldn't remember where MrB lived....where is H's mind???

If any of you were to see H, our 3 kids, and me...at any time yesterday (at home or in the restaurant) you would think 'there's a content happy family'.

Yesterday was one of this family's nicest days.

What happened to the D??? If H thinks he is just trying to show me how nice he can be, that just because we are D'd...we can still be like this...he's nuts.

If that is what he is trying to show me...I think it is border line emotional cruelty, especially to the kids.

If we can get along that well...and it is like that most of the times we are all together...my opinion is that to divorce is a cruel thing to do to 3 young kids.

Additionally, I still have to counter file, at least while his papers are still there. Once he sees my counter suit...he won't want to hang out with me.

Maybe he realized he's going to get his D...because I didn't beg, scream, or try to change his mind this time. And, maybe, he's not so sure now.

Geesh...