Suggestion........Stop trying to interpret every single action and statement!! It will drive you crazy! When she's back in the fold you will know it. Life will go on if she doesn't. You gave her a gift of maintaining the stability of the family during her affair and even after repeated punches to the face, you accepted her back because you love her. Right now she doesn't realise fully how big of a gift that was. And she knows you love her probably more than any other male ever has. How much that means to her that is the question yet to be answered. Soon you will find out if that fact is enough to snap her out of her MLC/Childhood induced funk. If not, you and your sons will survive without her.
The clock is ticking on your relationship, she just doesn't realise it yet. She thinks she can continue to give you scraps and you will accept it and always be there. Well for now its OK as long as things keep heading in the right direction....but eventually you have to get there. She knows what you want, she just needs to want the same thing.
Relax for now, you are is a better place than most.
