So now she's convinced herself because she doesn't get that euphoric high from me, that she must not love me.
Oh no. You're mindreading. Her behavior doesn't suggest that at all. She may HAVE felt that way, but she's come closer and closer to you suggesting otherwise now.
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Things were really good yesterday. But I just wonder if I'm fighting a losing battle. Will W EVER realize that what she's looking for is unattainable, but will keep looking because she got that "high" from OM? Will she keep looking and bounce from relationship to relationship when the "high" wears off? How long do I give her to come to the realization that what she has right in front of her is "real" and not what she's looking for?
Again, she hasn't told you she's thinking that. In fact your frustration is that she won't tell you anything. So you're filling in the blanks with your fears...who says she's "looking for" anything right now? She's with you. She is clearly showing signs of growing closer to you. Read that article again, it said that stuff like the hand jerking away stuff was an involuntary response and should improve, but now you're attributing all these thoughts to that action.
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I know I can't convince her myself. I know she has to come to the conclusion on her own. So I guess I just need to continue to be the rock in our relationship and when I can't be the rock any longer, end things and let her decide what she wants to do with her life.
Time will tell...you have a natural deadline in the future with the move, so just do this one day at a time right now. Think you need more GAL at this point, and less dwelling on what thoughts you think are going through W's head.
