Beth,

I just started reading your threads and I must say I am very impressed with your progress.

I have a question from one attorney's wife to another...how much do you think the profession is involved with their distance? I know that a lot of people go through this kind of thing, but I've been wondering about how my H's profession has affected his personality in the long run.

I believe I am at fault for not paying more attention and noticing things sooner, but if I had been paying attention, I think I would have noticed that my H began treating people in his personal life like people in his professional life. He has become almost "strategic" with friends, family, and spouse. Not letting anyone get too close or letting them know what is really going on inside. Because if people got a whiff of the truth, he would lose his advantage and thus lose the "case". He's so closed off. There is no insight into the soft, gooey center that is H anymore.

Maybe it has nothing to do with it...

And there are the long work hours.

Married - 19 years
Noticed Problem - Aug 2008
THE Conversation - Oct 2008

The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.