WOW!!!! Congrats to you, sweetie! You must feel fantastic! I think it is so great when we see one of our friends here on the board that is really getting a life. You are "trying" Amy....and that is so important. Don't be so hard on yourself when you think you have backslid from time to time, b/c you are doing the important things. Not sitting at home an brooding over H is one of those important things!

Changing the subject a bit, but I wanted to comment on a statement that was made back a page or two ago:

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But, he also wanted me to praise him for remembering to the leave the light on for me. I think his primary LL is words of affirmation. That's probably the one I was the least good at cause it matters to me the least of all!!!


Isn't that funny? I would have thought you would be great at giving words of affirmation. I know that that is my LL also but yet I am the world's worst at giving it to my H. I have read over and over how to be admired is most men's #1 need in their lives. And yet, I feel so "fake" when I try to show adirmation to my H. I suppose I don't know how. I can give him compliments, but I don't do it near enough. Maybe somebody could give us some tips.....hopefully some men will jump in here and help us. It doesn't have to be towards our H's, but toward anyone. I have talked a little about my sister and how her ex-H's had abused her. I have never seen anyone so starved for words of affirmation as she is. She will nearly kill herself to just get a pat on the back. If you don't feed her ego.....she doesn't stick around you very much and will move on to somebody else and I think it is b/c she is trying despartly to find that person that will make her feel good about herself. If only here H would just show a tiny bit of admiration for her, she would kiss his feet. She is like a little child that practically begs for somebody to tell her she did a good job at something.

My next question is this.....if your LL is words of affirmation and you never get any.....how does one get over it other than to just learn to be self confident and feel good about yourself? I don't have the need for words of affirmation from other (like my sister does), but I have the need to hear it from my H. But, if you don't get it......how does one overcome that? When a OM comes along and starts feeding a woman (or visa-versa) what they need.....then that is often how an EA begins.

Just thought I would throw something in here to think about.

BTW, Amy, our special day at church went very well yesterday. Thanks for your prayers.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!