Blech. I know my H still converses with OW often, he's open about it, if I ask (he says they basically call him for IT help). I can't wrap my head around that one, it's a violation of my personal boundaries, and one of the things I haven't figured out a consequence for. We're doing good: do I threaten to end it all over occasional casual (?) conversations between him/her/her significant other?
Sorry, didn't mean to hi-jack, that comment just struck a nerve for me. I'm glad your W gave you a straight answer.
I think it says a lot that she's making efforts, looking for a job in your area. Sorry you're tired...you're right, something real and valuable takes effort.
