Might I suggest that you have your best PMA on show for the next meeting?
Might be the only way to show that you're acting "as if." I told my W about 2 months ago, while she was at her peak of running around, that I was restricting her cell phone plan, not paying for her gas, and putting me and the kids on a schedule where we didn't need her. Then I told her that I was done being angry about it because 1. She didn't give a crap whether or not I was angry. 2. Because of that, the anger was only hurting me.
Fast forward about 2 weeks, the cell restrictions hit while she was at a bar. She wakes me up at 1:20 am to bless me up and down. I politely reminded her that I told her that I was going to restrict her cell phone; that I wasn't going to fund her indiscretions. After about 20 mins. she said "I don't know why you're not angry; if you were this would be so much easier." It was then that I knew I had the payoff for not letting the anger show around her.
