I have not rung or text him for 2 and a bit weeks. Tomorrow i will go into work again to show D18 how to do books. I will act As If althogh i am dying and I mean dying inside.
So to act As If, I smile, I dont ask persoanl questions, I look good and even hum a little tune?
Is this right ?????? Is there anything else I could do ??????
I would relly like to tell him of how I now feel his pain and that together with the right C we can make a stronger and better M. That I love him and respect him as the man he is.
Acting "as if" you are fine without him.."as if" everything will is fine and will work out. You cannot let him in on the fact that you are dying inside.
No..no personal questions; but yes.. DO look good, smell good, and act happy to be around him.
You answered your own question as to sharing your empathy with him. Yes it would be wrong. What to do if he brings up something related to the M? Answer briefly, but honestly. But don't expect that he will.
Is he going to get over this. He has hung on for nearly 4 years but now that there may be another woman, I feel his distance. The OW by his own accounts has nothing in common really, is rough around the edges , semi alcoholic, smoker, flat chested and cant hold a candle to me -- HIS WORDs
I don't have that answer. Only your H can answer that, M. You can only make yourself better and hope that his infatuation with the OW runs it course. I have heard that most A partners are totally different than a person's spouse and that the Wayward spouse often settles "down" from the spouse when choosing an A partner.
I wish I had the magic pill or perfect answer to get you through this.
Oh...and yes, it's always possible that it could be a revenge thing; that's why it is important to act "as if" you will be happy without or with him. That way he gets the message that what he's doing is not having the effect on you that he had hoped.
But in the end you are DB'ing to make yourself stronger and at the same time, more attractive to him.
But in the end you are DB'ing to make yourself stronger and at the same time, more attractive to him.
Thats my goal. Yet underneath I feel I am fooling myself and everyon on this post because I really really want my H back. I do know that the more GAL I do the better I will feel. I have had a few fleeting moments.
But in the end you are DB'ing to make yourself stronger and at the same time, more attractive to him.
Thats my goal. Yet underneath I feel I am fooling myself and everyon on this post because I really really want my H back. I do know that the more GAL I do the better I will feel. I have had a few fleeting moments.
You don't worry about fooling us; that's what we're for. so you can vent out all the emotion and fool your H. As far as fooling yourself; you can't deny yourself the emotions that you feel. But you can decide how to handle them so that HE doesn't see them.
