Working on a friendship

[Belle]

Yes, I know I should call back to check in and be friendly....I have done that and of course he didn't answer and hasn't called back.......

No expectations!!!! I have to keep reminding myself.

I've been thinking about the question you asked me - why do I want him to leave a message. After some thought, I've figured it out.

I guess I feel like my H misses me and likes to talk to me. I still feel like he is confused about us. (Especially since I heard that voicemail from OW saying that she tries really hard to give him his time to sort things out and think). So I think he calls to keep the connection because he's not sure of his decision. (I could be TOTALLY wrong because we don't talk about R)

Oftentimes when he calls me he says that he wants to see if he can come see the dog. I think it's just an excuse. Again I could be wrong.

I want him to leave a message b/c I want him to say he's calling just to say hi and see what's up with me. Is that so hard to say???

I have a feeling he doesn't want to admit to this and doesn't want to do or say anything that will get my hopes up.

I feel like by calling him back everytime he calls, I'm just giving him the easy way out - he doesn't have to say why he's calling. Which I suspect is no reason at all - just to say hi and talk with me.

I guess I just shouldn't concern myself with it so much. Take the high road......