I do not want to sound like Chicken Little, but if were me, I would have a face-to-face talk with H about OW before I would sign the papers. Text messages are too easy to hide behind about feelings and motives. I would like to look him in the eye and let him tell me how much he is committed to M. I would want to watch his body language especially his eyes while he is telling how he will deal with OW. Phone calls and text massages will not give you the whole picture. It is harder to fake it when you are face-to-face with someone. You will need to watch lissen with a clear eye and with some suspiciousness.
Even thought you want to save your marriage, you do not want to give away the farm to get there. If H is really committed to repairing R/M and he believes you are, signing a paper should not make a deference to him. Money makes people do strange things, but do not give him everything just to go to C for 4, 6, 8 months. Once the paper is signed H has all of the cards and you do not have anything left to leverage.
Think about this real hard. I strongly suggest you meet with H and talk about the two questions that you have been wanting answers to. OW and his commitment to M/R. You need to have answers to at least these 2 questions. I would not sign everything away until I am convinces that he is on the up and up.
The OW maybe influencing H to play hardball with you. She wants to keep what she got as much as you want it back. It would be only normal for her fight for her man. No female wants to get dumped by a man the has a house with a pool (LOL). All kidding aside be cool, but know the OW is an influence on H’s demeanor and actions.
Get some answer from him you can believe. Do not except answers that leave you interpreting or wondering what he is thinking.
I am proud of you for going out and having a good time last night. I read an article about texting or calling exs while you are out drinking. The article said it was not the best idea.
Here I go again running at the mouth. Sorry for writing so much, but I do not want you to sell yourself down the river just on the hope H will stick to his word.
This is just my opinion. It may not be right for you and you will have to do what you think is best for your sitch.
