I try to every night, all in vain...in vain

[kat727]

Sweetie, don't put the ball in his court. You need to say to yourself: Do I want him back; yes or no. If no end of story, done deal. If yes, it gets more complicated: In what capacity do I want him back ie, friends, husband or simply as a partner to raise our children? Then you will need to set the rules for what you are wanting. If he can't do any of it ...well that is another can of beans but if he can...you need to know where you stand.

Your old marriage is gone. Sorry if that sounds awful but really you wouldn't want to go back to what led to this betrayal. Think about what you would want and if he gets that far, talk about what changes you both need to see in each other. Thankfully the answer to my first question was no once the divorce became final for me. And there is no turning back now that he is bringing me down with him financially.

I answered that yes you could have the recipe, do you want it on your thread, my thread or on FB?

kat